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I was watching the movie Doubt, in which the female protagonist questions the priest’s integrity based on her moral certainty, without a shard of proof. This got me thinking about Intuition.

Intuition – “the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning“. We all have a moment in life when we have a gut feeling about something which defies all rationality. In moments like these do you listen to yourself or do you shrug it off? Most of us have grown up believing that there should be logic to all the decisions we make, but we need both intuition and reason to come to the best possible decision.

Research show that only 20% of the brains gray matter is dedicated to conscious thoughts while 80% is dedicated to non conscious thoughts, so how could we possibly make decisions without including the non conscious part of the brain. The conscious is the expert at logic which we use relentlessly, on the contrary the unconscious mind searches though the past, present and future and tries to come up with hunches and feelings.

Writing your thoughts down helps open up your non conscious mind, stir up your emotional feeling rather than intellectual feelings. With this you create a deeper relationship with self which helps you to bring your true instinctual awareness back into your rational life.

Think about it !!!


Color Psychology

color psychology

With the monsoons coming in and graying the skies, I got to thinking about how colors around us effect our moods. Colors influences perceptions that are not obvious, so I did some research on how people get effected by the colors we wear. While many people are aware of the impact of color on their own image and how they look to other people, what you may not be so familiar with is the psychological impact your choice of color can have on others, specially in business. Color has such a subconscious impact that it is important to have an understanding of what it says.

  • Establish trust and credibility, then blue is best. It is the safest color of all, universally liked by most men and women – however it has a certain predictability about it and suggests ‘conservative’.
  • Appear friendly & approachable – choose lighter colors such as mid tone blues and greens, blue-greens and teal, tan and peachy-orange.
  • Be assertive – red, but it can also be threatening to others.
  • Get noticed – red, if giving a talk to a large group – but it can be tiring if you are already overtired.
  • Appear confident – blue-green is a good business color for women to wear, it suggests high self esteem and confidence, yet is still friendly and approachable.
  • Show dependability – green – be aware that it is also a color that is not always liked by others, even though it is the color of emotional balance.
  • Appear neutral – grey or beige will do it. This can let your personality shine through, although you may also come across as a fence-sitter, keeping your true feelings to yourself – you may say what the client wants to hear, rather than the truth.
  • Professional with authority – dark blue or dark grey, which are the most business-like colors and good for credibility when promoting your business, yet these could be too overpowering and somber for many of your clients in a consultation.
  • Shock and inspire your audience – magenta will do this for you.

So next time you prepare for an event, interview or presentation, pick the right color.

Think about it!!!

Micro expressions


I was doing some research on non verbal communication and came across micro expressions. Micro expressions are very brief facial expressions, lasting only a fraction of a second. They occur when a person either deliberately or unconsciously conceals a feeling. Seven emotions have universal signals: anger, fear, sadness, disgust, contempt, surprise and happiness. We come across non verbal cues everyday at work and at home, only if we had the knowledge to decipher them, can we use it to our advantage. Learning to spot micro expression can help us to:

  1. Improve emotional intelligence.
  2. Develop your capacity for empathy.
  3. Spot concealed emotions
  4. Improve relationships.
  5. Understand others.
  6. Recognize and better manage your own emotions.
  7. Develop social skills.

You can take the test here to check how good you are at recognizing micro expressions.



One of Japan’s biggest cosmetics company received a complaint that a consumer had bought a soap box that was empty.

Immediately the authorities isolated the problem to the assembly line, which transported all the packaged boxes of soap to the delivery department. For some reason, one soap box went through the assembly line empty.

Management asked its engineers to solve the problem. Post-haste, the engineers worked hard to devise an X-ray machine with high resolution monitors manned by two people to watch all the soap boxes that passed through the line to make sure they were not empty.

No doubt, they worked hard and they worked fast but they spent a whopping amount to do so.

But when a workman was posed with the same problem, he did not get into complications of X-rays, etc but instead came out with another solution.

He bought a strong industrial electric fan and pointed it at the assembly line. He switched the fan on, and as each soap box passed the fan, it simply blew the empty boxes out of the line.

Moral: Always look for simple solutions. Devise the simplest possible solution that solves the problem. So, learn to focus on solutions not on problems. “If you look at what you do not have in life, you don’t have anything; if you look at what you have in life, you have everything”

Try a power pose

power pose

Body language not only affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. I was listening to this Ted talk by Amy Cuddy, where she mentions how our bodies govern how we think and feel about ourselves. Everyone talks about the importance of “body language,” but few people understand how much of an impact it actually has — not just in the way others perceive us, but in terms of how we actually perform. Certain “power poses” immediately change our body chemistry. And these changes affect the way we do our job and interact with other people. Our bodies do change our mind.

Take away from this session: Next time when you are going for an interview or a meeting where you will be evaluated, try a “power pose” for 2 mins before you start and see the difference for yourself.

When you pretend to be powerful, you are more likely to actually feel powerful.

Think about it!!!

May the force be with you or against you …

While reading about change I came across a strategic tool – Force Field Analysis by Kurt Lewin. Kurt Lewin wrote that “An issue is held in balance by the interaction of two opposing sets of forces – those seeking to promote change (driving forces) and those attempting to maintain the status quo (restraining forces)”.


Lewin’s force field analysis is used to distinguish which factors within a situation or organisation drive a person towards or away from a desired state, and which oppose the driving forces.These forces can then be analyzed in order to make informed decisions. Many of the reasons for people’s reluctance or refusal to change are related to the fear of change. To understand what makes people resist or to accept change we need to understand the values and experiences of that person or group.

Developing self awareness and emotional intelligence can help us to understand these forces that work within us and others.

Changing your attitude towards resistance is what’s needed to ensure successful change.

Think about it !!!

Expert Advise

expert advice

One day Akbar thought about professions and wanted to know which profession was most popular in his capital. He asked about this to his courtier. Some said it would be trade, other said soldiering.
When it was Birbal turn, he arose from his seat and bowed before Akbar and said, “Your Majesty, in my opinion it’s Medicine.”
This was surprising as there was just number of physicians in city. Physicians in court got furious and said, “you have no clue about how difficult is it to practice medicine and advice people about medical problems.
Birbal smiled and said, “I can prove this to you my majesty, If you come with me tomorrow morning.”
Next morning Akbar met Birbal on major crossroad in the city. Birbal had bandage on one hand. Akbar saw it and asked what happened.
Birbal said, “I cut my hand by mistake while cutting some fruits for breakfast.”
Birbal further request Akbar, “Your majesty you will have to write down the names of all the physicians we came across.”
Akbar agreed and said, “I will surely do but first be sure to wash that wound and apply ointment on it.”
They sat at busy crossroad through all day. Birbal was a well known personality so anyone who passed by inquired about his injury and advised him some or other medication.
As day went on list grew long, Akbar got tired so suggested to go home.
Birbal asked for list and said, “Majesty you forget to write your own name on the top of list. You were the first to advise me.”

It best to refrain from giving advice on matters you are not qualified to handle. And when it  comes to taking advice, make sure to check the credentials of those who counsel you in both personal and professional life.

Let it go..


While taking a stress management class a psychologist raised a glass of water.
Everyone expected that he is going to ask, “Half Empty or Half Full..!!”
But instead he asked, “How Heavy is this Glass of Water?”Many called out the answer that it ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz. Now psychologist replied

“This absolute weight of glass doesn’t matter. What matters is how long I hold it.

If I hold it for a minute it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour then I will feel ache in my arm.
If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed.
In all the cases the weight of glass doesn’t change, but longer I hold heavier it becomes.”

He continued..

“Similar are stress and worries.

If you think about them for a while, nothing happens.
If you think about them a bit longer, they hurt.
And if you think about them all day long, you feel like paralyzed or incapable of doing anything.”

It’s important to let go off your stresses.

Think about it !!!


focus exercise

Today I came across a fun exercise about how to improve your focus which I will share with you. Before I do that let’s understand what focus is, why it is so important and what are it’s benefits.

Focus simply means “pay particular attention to”

Importance: (1) It sets you in a purposeful direction; (2) It keeps you motivated; and (3) helps us believe in ourselves.

Benefits – Again to name a few – helps you to make better choices; increases your listening skills.

OK now the exercise – partner up with a friend and and answer these questions -“What is the fun thing you did yesterday?”; “What is the fun thing you did today ?” and “What is the fun thing you will do tomorrow?”

Take turns and answer these questions but here’s the catch – S-P-E-L-L O-U-T Y-O-U-R S-E-N-T-E-N-C-E-S, YES don’t say them out S-P-E-L-L them out and try to understand your partner and respond to it by S-P-E-L-L-I-N-G out your response.

Isn’t it fun !!! Along with being fun this exercises also helps you to keep your mind focused.

H-O-P-E Y-O-U H-A-D F-U-N!!!

Sashimi Model


Today I was going through the Sashimi Model for Process Development, and got into thinking why can’t we use this model to achieve our long term goals in life.

What is Sashimi Model?  It is the art of slicing up a problem space into pieces that are at the same time independently valuable as well as quickly achievable.

All of us have short term longs and long term goals in life, where short term goals are easier to manage, plan and focus; it is the long term goals which end up fading away.

Why not slice the long term goals into small achievable goals and set targets, have milestones to get some motivation. Celebrate each milestone.

A pot fills only drop by drop.

Think about it !!!

Keep a Journal


A Life Worth Living is Worth Recording.

Journals aren’t just for teenager. Powerful and successful people regularly keep journals. A journal can preserve memories and serve as an emotional release. If you’ve never considered keeping a journal, reconsider.

Keeping a journal is simple:

  1. Decide on a format. Nearly any form of journal can be effective. A notebook, word processor, or dedicated journal can serve you well. You can even record your journal online. It’s entirely up to you. A blog can serve as a journal.
  2. Stick to a schedule. Try to write something at least a few times each week. Ideally, you’ll be able to record your thoughts daily. You’ll find that the journal habit is easier to create if you write each day.
  3. Keep it casual. You’re not writing a novel. You’re writing for yourself. You don’t even have to use complete sentences! Use a style that suits your wants and needs. Some days you’ll write more than others and there will be days without much to write about.

Anyone can enjoy the benefits of a journal. Choose a format that you enjoy and start writing. Keep a regular schedule. You’ll be amazed by how much you write over the years if you just write a little each day.



Storytelling” is one of our oldest art forms which only only entertain us but also is used to convey so many messages.

By telling a story you aim to inform, engage and  inspire the listener.

It helps leaders in inspiring the organization, setting a vision, teaching important lessons, defining culture and values, explaining who you are and what you believe, leading change and coaching people.

What would you prefer? A short story with a moral or a long lecture with a moral.

So why not change the way we communicate by making it more interesting!!!


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